For those of us in the LGBT community, we all know the struggles we’ve overcome to get to where we are now. Many of us were not able to live our lives as we would have hoped to, due to constraints from family members or to community pressures overall. Now that you’re in university or college and feeling a little safer, things may start to change in the realm of relationships. As you begin to open up and flourish in your new environment, you may notice an increase in dating possibilities. Meeting others like you will expand your social circle and allow you to get know people with like minds and interests. Eventually those social events will blossom into romantic ones but don’t loose your cool. With these helpful tips, you can keep your dating game strong while maintaing your integrity and character at school. After all, you don’t want to see yourself in the next issue of The Tramp Review because that would not be fun (just a little joke, haha).
We have heard this from our parents since we were born, but seriously, use caution when meeting new potential love interests. Just because they go to your school and share the same lifestyle you do, doesn’t mean they are boy or girl scouts. Protect yourself and don’t be too reckless when first getting to know someone. Give them your e-mail first, and your phone number after a date or two. Plan a date in a public place or at a social event. This way there are lots of friends around in case you’re feeling a little uncomfortable or threatened for whatever reason.
Once the dating has progressed to the point of number exchange and multiple dates, don’t lose the communication. If the special someone calls or texts, return the message or call as soon as you can. Some people believe in the “3 day rule,” but honestly, who does that now? Be courteous to your new someone and reply without wasting time. It shows that you respect them and also proves that you are attentive and interested in what they have to say.
On the flip-side of being upfront, if you find you’re losing interest, say so. You’re going to meet a lot of interesting people in your university years so don’t feel bad if you don’t fall head over heels for the first person you date on campus. Don’t leave them hanging in limbo and don’t let them go by ignoring them. This is immature and also unkind. Think of how you would like to be treated and act accordingly. If you can manage to go your separate ways amicably, you could have a friend for life.
You’ve just met someone and things are going well. A few weeks later, you’re not sure if the two of you are working The next weekend, you meet another cutie and want to see what they are all about. Wait! Don’t be a serial dater. The mature thing to do is to end things with the first partner and make sure they understand it’s okay that things didn’t work out. Take some time to yourself to pause and reflect on what you want before running after the latest cutie from last weekend. Those who tend to jump from partner to partner often make the same mistakes because they don’t learn from past loves. Feel free to have fun but don’t forget that everyone needs kindness and support to make any relationship grow.